The struggles and triumphs of being a Navy wife while still being a sane mother.
Friday, September 30, 2011
Retail Therapy
We are currently waiting for some follow up test results for our son, I am still not ready to talk about it, but I am not doing very well trying to hold it together. I thought that with Nick having a three day weekend, I needed lots of distractions. I planned lots of activities to keep me busy, down time is when I get depressed. One thing that this area has, is really good outlet shopping. Pretty much every store I shop at, is located in Foley, AL. If you are ever in the area, I do find it a must. For the past three years this is where my whole family has gotten about 80% of their entire wardrobe. I knew Caden had no 3T winter, Nick and I could use some new clothes, and Ashton needed a couple of things of his own. I saved most of Caden's things, but clothes have still changed so much in three years, plus I want Ashton to have some of his own things. It was definitely a very successful shopping trip!! I got a few new sweaters and a new pair of jeans. Nick got three new polos. Caden is pretty much set for the winter, with pants, school clothes, and nice clothes. Ashton even scored big with a lot more than I thought I would get him. My favorite stores were Carter's, Old Navy, Gap, Children's Place, Gymboree, and Osh Kosh. I had a very good time and was completely distracted in savings mode that I never had one negative thought. We then came home and let the boys chill. This started to get bad for me, so we went and got one of our favorite treats. Frozen Yogurt from TCBY is the best ever here, really anywhere. We all love the flavors and toppings and it definitely ended the night off right. Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Thursday, September 29, 2011
A Goodnight's Sleep
Both of my boys started sleeping through the night at a very young age. I am very lucky for this, and I know it. I am definitely one of those people who need some sleep, and I definitely would rather be kept up late at night than wake up early. Well, lately both of my boys have been trying to test my sleeping patience. Ashton goes to bed early and sleeps well, but come 5 to 6, he is ready to wake up. Now to me this is getting up in the middle of the night, but he is wide awake and ready to go. Nick's alarm goes off at 430, so I tend to blame him for being noisy, but I do not think that is the real cause of his early morning wake-up. I think he is his father's child, and not mine. Well last NIGHT, he woke up at 430 and I was not a fan. I decided he was going to cry through it, and go back to sleep. He talked/ banged on the bed/ listened to his music for a good hour before he gave it up! I was so excited to get back in bed and sleep for a little bit longer when I found this: The other new problem that has arose in our house. Caden crawls in bed with us in the middle of the NIGHT, again more so early morning, and falls back asleep. At least he goes right back to sleep, but I am getting tired of not getting a good night's rest. He usually is able to crawl in bed without me noticing, it is once he is there that he starts kicking and wakes me up. He is a huge snuggler and sleeps in the weirdest ways. Well I thought this one was too funny that I had to take a picture of it. I am sad that I could not center it, but it was pitch black, so I had to guess where to take the picture. Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Halloween Homemade
I am very much one of those parents that love to see her kids in matching outfits or at least similar outfits. It has been hard up to this point because most places don't make the same thing in newborn and toddler. But now that Ashton is getting older, I am starting to find some things. Well, I knew I wanted my boys' Halloween costumes to be cohesive. I know I don't have many years where I have complete say in the costume department, so I am taking full advantage until I loose my title. Caden doesn't watch superhero shows and only really watches Disney/ Pixar type of movies. He has no idea what is out there, because right now we are sheltering him from violence that he doesn't need to be familiar with yet at such an early age. We don't do guns and swords, so most superhero shows are a no go. I know eventually we will be there, but I am trying to keep my little boy innocent for as long as I can. So basically I have full range in the actual hero department, since he does know that stuff. Nick is a fireman in the navy. So I thought it would just be adorable to have Caden be a fireman and Ashton be a dalmatian puppy! I know, too cute! :) Well I found a good quality fireman costumes online with all of the extras. I don't like that cheapy plastic look in costumes, I like to go all out. But the dalmatian puppy has proven to be a bit more troublesome. I haven't found anything I like. So I had a vision that it couldn't be that hard to make it on my own. Now when I say my own, I really mean make my mom do it! She just finished it, and it looks awesome!!! I will post pictures closer to Halloween, but I am so proud of what she did. I wanted pants and then a bubble type long shirt that is stuffed to make him look nice and poofy when he sits down. That was a whole lot of description, that I don't know if I conveyed the right way, but man it looks cute!! I am so glad that I thought of this combo. I really hope for many years of costume pairs with the boys, but I know that is pushing my luck. Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Pointless Post
Monday, September 26, 2011
RV Life
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Princess Party
Today was Caden's Princess' Birthday Party. He has been so excited about this and I couldn't really wait either. The party was by a park that was close by, after nap time. Well of course Caden didn't take a nap on the day I wanted him to take one the most, so it was already starting off to be an interesting day. I made the decision that only Caden and I would go to the party. As much as I wanted to the support of Nick, because I really don't like doing things by myself, I knew I needed to put on my big girl panties. I was not sure the appropriate protocol for who all goes to little kid birthday parties when you don't know the parents. I decided that the first party of the season, I would feel it out. I now wish he would have gone because most people had their husbands and everyone had their babies. I love an opportunity to show off Ashton and Caden, and I definitely missed it here. Caden was his normal charming self. Overall he did really well playing with the kids. I definitely was able to see his short stature amongst the other children. I am not ready to talk about it yet, but we have concerns. His princess loved her tiara and tea set and Caden was so excited for her to open the present. Like true Caden fashion, he did not try the cake and was hesitant about the pinata until he saw the candy. I met some of the moms, so that made me very happy. I am glad we went and glad we had a good time. I also was able to witness the "mean guy" in action, and I feel sorry not only for Caden but for his teacher. Caden was knocked down several times and cried. I wish he would dust it off, but he is very sensitive. The child's mom is seriously the nicest girl and we have so much in common. I hope with the time, the boys can get along more so we can start hanging out more. The only bad part of the party was really the end. Caden went totally out of his normal character and into his terrible three's character and decided to play keep away from mommy for a good 20 minutes so we couldn't leave. It was so embarrassing!!! He was so not himself, totally showing off, I was about ready to kill him. But finally he decided that his life was more important than the park, and we left without kicking and screaming. Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Saturday, September 24, 2011
2 AM Wake-Up Call
So last night after the children were fast asleep in bed, Nick and I, being the stupid night owls we are, were asleep a few hours later. For some reason we cannot go to sleep before midnight, even though his alarm goes off at 4:30 and the kids are usually up between 6 and 7. Anyways, last night around 2 am, I was abruptly woken up. My boys have both slept through the night, pretty much their whole little lives. So when I am woken up, I am not used to it. But this was not from one of my boys, it was the worst wake up ever; the battery dying in our smoke alarm. There is something wrong with the wiring in this house, these batteries die all of the time. And it is always in the middle of the night! Nick could compete for being the soundest sleeper, and hardest person to wake up. When Ashton was first born, there were several nights I was ready to call it quits with him. My sleep deprivation had kicked in and I hated that he could sleep through the cries and feedings. I thought since he missed it the first go around, he would be more than willing to help. I was sadly mistaken. That all is another story, luckily Ashton out grew late nights quickly, he saw that his parents needed the sleep too much. Finally I got Nick up to help me, because I was not doing this alone. He gets rather angry in his sleep haze and started mouthing off how unnecessary this was. I ignored him with a few choice words, because I knew that any minute the boys would wake up. After spending close to 15 minutes listening to each alarm, we finally found the one. And it was right outside of Caden's door! He never ended up waking up, but Ashton started stirring, but he put himself back to sleep. Nick was already back in bed asleep by the time I had lights off and everything back in place. I started to feel like I was replaying a great Friends episode where Phoebe cannot get the alarm to shut off. I finally found the only way for me to sleep was to have the alarm wrapped up in several old towels at the bottom of our laundry basket. The lesson I learned here, Nick will always be (insert choice word of preference) in the middle of the night and smoke alarms never stop beeping no matter what! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Friday, September 23, 2011
My Sweethear, My Princess
I am in for some trouble in a few years. My three year old son is girl crazy. As I have said before, he is very good at watching a movie, and remembering every little piece (just like his dad, and the exact opposite of his mom) and even acts out scenes all of the time. Well in Megamind, the main character has a "sweetheart." I actually haven't watched this movie with him, his father has. But from Caden's version, the main character has a sweetheart, so Caden needs a sweetheart. For a long time, I was his sweetheart. Sometimes his Jessie doll (from Toy Story) is his sweetheart. But now since he has been in school, he has a new sweetheart....tear. One day, his sweetheart and him left school at the same time, I was holding his hand but the little girl reached out for his hand. He looked at her, and then me, and went for her hand!! I have already been replaced!!! I wanted to cry right then, but I could see the guilt he had, so I just smiled and let him run off with her. Well I guess she liked the term "Princess" more, so now this is his princess. Everything is princess this and princess that. His teacher said the two of them play so good together, and it is always just them. Secretly I am glad, after the bullying incident, that he doesn't even try to play with the mean boys and sticks with the nice little girl. Well it is now Princess's birthday this weekend so we went to Toys R Us to pick out a present. I decided with guided help, he could choose what he wanted. After many fits of too expensive presents, he decided on a princess tiara and a tea set that had all of the Disney princesses on them. It was so cute how he knew it was for her, and really put thought into it! If only he could teach his father his thoughtful shopping skills! : ) I cannot wait to see first hand how they interact.
On a side note, I think for one of the first times, I genuinely hurt somebody's feelings, purely unintentional. We were eating lunch at Panera Bread and said Caden's name. The table next to us; a girl about my age, her mom, and one year old son, all looked at me. They were so excited because her son's name was also Caden. After meeting about a million Caden's, I kind of blew off their bewilderment, and made a smart ass comment. I said get ready for lots of Caden's, in his old class he was one of three (no lie!). They looked at me hurt, so I had to get out of the hole. I said I still love the name, but I just didn't realize how common it was, with the Caden/Aiden/Hayden variations. She said she thought it was so unique, and that is why they loved it. I said I was sorry, I didn't mean to hurt their feelings, but I know so many Caden's, both boys and girls; they honestly were mortified. I left, but the more I think about it, the more I am just like really?? You didn't know that your baby's name was common?? I think Caden even made the top 10 this past year, or close to it. Through facebook, I know so many people that have Caden's or Cade's, spelt different ways, both boys and girls. I hate to offend anyone, but they need to be prepared. I still love the name, Caden, and I had no idea how much it would blow up, but oh well! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
On a side note, I think for one of the first times, I genuinely hurt somebody's feelings, purely unintentional. We were eating lunch at Panera Bread and said Caden's name. The table next to us; a girl about my age, her mom, and one year old son, all looked at me. They were so excited because her son's name was also Caden. After meeting about a million Caden's, I kind of blew off their bewilderment, and made a smart ass comment. I said get ready for lots of Caden's, in his old class he was one of three (no lie!). They looked at me hurt, so I had to get out of the hole. I said I still love the name, but I just didn't realize how common it was, with the Caden/Aiden/Hayden variations. She said she thought it was so unique, and that is why they loved it. I said I was sorry, I didn't mean to hurt their feelings, but I know so many Caden's, both boys and girls; they honestly were mortified. I left, but the more I think about it, the more I am just like really?? You didn't know that your baby's name was common?? I think Caden even made the top 10 this past year, or close to it. Through facebook, I know so many people that have Caden's or Cade's, spelt different ways, both boys and girls. I hate to offend anyone, but they need to be prepared. I still love the name, Caden, and I had no idea how much it would blow up, but oh well! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
1, 2, 3, Will it be the Death of Me?
My precious little bundle of joy is turning into a big pile of poo! (Caden, if you ever read this one day, know that I love you, and I am only kidding..... sort of!) The three's are very trying and Caden is totally testing everything. Ever since he started back in school, he is just a handful! I think he is very tired when he gets home, but still has energy so he doesn't want to take a nap. So this results in a lot of fits by both Caden and Mommy. He never really ever talked back to us prior to school, nor did he know the word no in the negative manner, and he never knew what screaming for the pure annoyance of it meant. Now if he doesn't want something, we know about it. Before if he didn't want to eat something, take a bath, or get ready, all I had to say was "mommy is very sad" and he would do anything. Now his response is "I am mad!" I never had to punish this kid before, and now I have been trying to use time out or take a break and think about things. When he sits there for like a minute before I feel guilty, I then say do you want to say sorry and you love mommy. His usual response is now no. It breaks my heart that my perfect angel now is not the happy child he once was. I am going to believe that this is a phase and it is not that something is truly wrong with him. I know he is becoming more independent and is just seeing how far he can take it. But I am not ready for him to grow up. I am not ready for any of this. I miss my baby but am excited for the little boy that is to come after these threes! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
My Other Big Boy!
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Happy Birthday Daddy!
Monday, September 19, 2011
Move out of my way!
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Taste of Pensacola Beach!
I love going to festivals. One thing that Florida/ Alabama has is all sorts of festivals! Around this time of year, every weekend I end up finding something for us to go explore. They all start to look the same, with the same vendors, but we still go. They are usually free to get in and we can walk around outside and have good quality bonding time. My goal is for my boys to look back on their childhood, mainly through pictures and see that no matter what happened, they were happy and did a lot of fun things. Well this weekend was the start of festival season. Taste of Pensacola Beach is held at the beach where all the local restaurants bring out their signature dishes for you to get a taste of. You do have to pay some money for this one, but it is well worth it. It is not necessarily that kid friendly, unless your kids like seafood, which Caden does not, but Nick and I enjoy it a lot. We end up getting something from almost everyone and share it all. Most of the stuff is a way to check that off of your list and probably won't try again, but every once in awhile you find something you really like. They had local bands there and of course my little ham had to dance up on stage for everyone...he got a huge applause. It was truly a great day! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
What's in a Name?
When we got pregnant with Caden, we went through every name book and literally wrote down every name we liked in the whole big book! We both came to an easy agreement of Caden. We knew the middle name would be Lee, the same as Nick's. We thought Caden Lee sounded great. I did not want a name that he went by another, because I found that to be confusing later on. Even how Nick is Nicholas, important documents can be hard to come by with two different variations of names. I also loved how it was unique but not too out there. Well, I now know that Caden/Aiden/Hayden is the most common name there is now, but I still love it! When we got pregnant the next time, I discovered something. My son's initials could be my maiden name! I feel as though there is about a one in a billion shot of this happening, so I had to jump on it. Ake (pronounced like lake minus the L) is a very unique last name. Growing up I was teased and hated it, but now I absolutely love it and hate that I couldn't carry it on. After I randomly married an Evans', it made it a little easier to carry on the name in my own way. So I knew that I needed the initials AKE, and luckily I had one of them covered, but sadly that was just the Evans'. It made it easier that I just had to look up 'A' names, but still a hard task. I wanted it to go with Caden and have the same unique but not weird quality. We like several city names, Austin, Aspen, but didn't want that route because Caden wasn't the same. I loved the name Ashton for a long time but Nick didn't want people to think of Ashton Kutcher. After I convinced him that whatever name we came up with, someone would know that name, he jumped on the Ashton bandwagon. So we had Ashton Evans' for almost our entire pregnancy, but the middle name we were have problems with. My name of the week, I just could never get to stick. I was all but to give up on my AKE initial idea, when I thought of Kole. I knew that it normally was with a C, so people would have problems with it, but I thought Ashton Kole, sounded so cute. And after some more persistent persuasion that probably included I am the one carrying this kid, Nick liked the name too! So there you have it, Ashton Kole Evans, is the most special name ever to me, and I would love if he or both of my boys could carry on my name with their own children some day. Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Friday, September 16, 2011
Pick on Someone Your Own Size!
Caden has had a few good weeks in school now. He doesn't cry every time I drop him off, so that is a successful day in my book. He has how ever lately been complaining about the kids in his class. He refers to them as the bad men. "The bad men pushed me, the bad men hit my knees, the bad men knocked me down, the bad men covered up my mouth." Now I have worked with kids for many years and know both sides of the story. I felt bad for my little guy but also knew he could be very imaginative and likes to imitate movies into his real life. I knew I liked his teacher and she probably would be stopping anything if something were happening. But once he started talking about covering his mouth up and this going on for a few days, I knew I had to say something. Well I told her everything he said, very nervously, like I was going to get into trouble. And how I knew it was probably nothing, but I just wanted to let her know, to see if she saw anything. Well she said she had never seen anything, and that Caden has a listening problem. She tried to turn my problem into lets get Caden in trouble. She said a few of the kids like to do the opposite of what she says and laugh. Well my son has never been in a learning environment, and oh wait he is THREE! It didn't surprise me in the least, but I also knew that he would copy other kids before he would be the leader. But I got her back on track and just said to watch out for me please. Well that afternoon, she was very apologetic. She got Caden to talking and he showed who the bad men were and saw them in the act. She spent the whole day going over rules and claims the issue is resolved. I feel so bad for my little guy but hope it is all okay now. He is by far the tiniest guy in his class, so I hope he is not always the target for bullies! I can now see why some parents take matters into their own hands, not that I would be Nick is another story! :) He was so mad and we have a birthday party to go to soon with his class, so I am sure we will easily be able to determine the bully... I may have to hold back my husband from the meanie's parents! Oh my goodness! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
The Upside Down Show
This is a weird show that comes on around midnight, that Caden loves. He used to wake up in the middle of the night and get in bed with us and watch this show. He would always ask for it. He now doesn't get the TV turned on at night, but still generally crawls in bed with us. Anyways, this show is my life. Nick has been on glorious shore duty the past three years. For all of you non-navy people, that means no deployments and home every night. He spent 5 years on the USS Washington (a carrier=really, really big ship!) and then 3 years shore duty in Florida, then repeat. Well, for those of you doing the math, his shore duty time is up! He is to report to his new carrier, the USS Reagan the day after Christmas!! I am so sad, I cannot even talk about it right now. Everything I know will change. He was gone a lot before, but I have forgotten those times because I am so used to him being here. All I can say for now without crying is it is going to be so hard to be away from him. Our exact schedule and how things work is up in the air, so right now I am clueless. But earlier when I was talking about seeing how much my life would change over a year, I was referring to this. I am going to have some high and lows with this, and I am the exact opposite of excited! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
My Big Boy!
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
If an idea's worth having once, it's worth having twice.
I thought this quote by Tom Stoppard was very appropriate for me. I had an idea once on my birthday to blog everyday for the year to see how my life changed over a year. We all see I failed miserably on that, but I am going to give it a go again. I thought since I have already started to do good, I would keep at it. I am usually very wordy online, so some blogs may be rather long, but others could be short, especially when I do not have time. I am really interested to see how my views and state of mind will change because I know so much is about to change in my life. But hey, that sounds like a great subject for another blog! Here is hoping a second time is a charm! (Another great title for this entry!) Post and Carry on with the rest of your day!
Monday, September 12, 2011
The First Day of the Rest of Your Life!
Caden, now three and a half, started school a few weeks ago. I was looking for a Church Preschool; something that taught him his basics, how to share with friends, and most importantly how to be away from mommy! Well, if I haven't complained about this enough, let me just say Pensacola is COUNTRY!! The few options the area had were long filled up in advance and my one week prior decision was not enough notice. I had all but given up with Caden being on several church waiting lists. I assumed that Nick and I's limited one income budget could not spare the luxury of mommy free time, since my job is to stay home with the boys. I had even done preschool home school research and started a curriculum and schedule for Caden over the summer. I had accepted the fact that he would be the one in kindergarten screaming bloody murder when I left. But then a few days before school was to start my number two option (The first being the word of mouth best in the area) decided to open up an additional three year old classroom since they had so many kids. I was so excited and Caden was even more excited. We went shopping for all the normal school supplies and really hyped up how fun he would have. We started eating lunches out of our lunch box just so he would be completely comfortable. Then the time came. The first day of school. Nick was able to go with us, so the first day routine went very smoothly. We got dressed in our new outfit, had lunch made, and we were off. Caden was so excited and looked so cute walking down the halls with his back pack as big as him. When he went into the classroom he immidiately went in and started playing. He was just fine!! Mommy wanted to cry and longed for a hug, but I didn't want to bring up I was leaving, so I just turned around and clung to Ashton. When we picked him up, we got Fro Yo, our favorite. Caden loved school and I loved he was happy. The next few days would prove to be a different story, but that is for a different blog! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
10 years later...
I would just like to take a brief moment and remember how much 9/11 has affected me and everyone else. I have spent the whole weekend glued to the television watching almost every tribute that was made. I now feel like I know some of the people that were portrayed personally since I watched so much about them. My heart goes out to every single person that was lost in 9/11 as well as every family member and friend that was touched by someone that was lost. I think about my own life and how so many people joined the military afterwards, including my husband. I don't know how many people took that path, but I would imagine many did. The national pride that was shown right after the attacks, still gives me goosebumps. September 11th, has two meanings for me. Again, I am sad for everyone that died on that day. But I am also, selfishly sad for myself. I hate that I am admitting this out loud, but I am. My husband is basically a fire fighter in the navy. His job scares me so much. Right now his job on shore duty is not that dangerous, but soon he is going back out to sea. Now I know he is not fighting the front lines like so many other courageous people, but none the less, it is still dangerous. I worry more about someone trying to bomb his carrier than I worry about him getting in an accident on board. I know the latter is more probable but it is not the focus of my worry. Nick always reassures me that he is safe, and I am sure he is. But I also know that he would never tell me other wise because he would not want me to worry anymore than I already do. I know this sounds selfish, and it is, but I am worried that one day I could be one of those widows. I think 9/11 came right at a time this year, that Nick is preparing to leave the safety of my arms and going back out into the scary world alone. I think that this weekend was too much emotions for me, and it got me thinking way too much. I need to go back and take care of the boys to distract me. Post and Carry on with the rest of your day!
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Signature Sign-Off
I decided I needed my own unique way to say goodbye at the end of each of my blogs. After looking at classic sign-offs from news reporters, I thought my quest was stupid. After sharing my disappointment with Nick, I was enlightened. I described Carol Burnett's classic sign-off of her variety show (tugging of her ear for her grandmother). I thought that her sign off was unique enough to get people talking, but definitely not feasible for the virtual world. After Nick looked at me crazy for watching such an old show he started to think. He said at the end of each of his commander's briefs he would say "Post and Carry On." Basically saying leave and go back to your job. I decided since my new focus was part military life inspired this was very appropriate. I also liked the pun of "post" a blog. So I had the start of my sign-off and added to the carry on. I hope you like the symbolism and thought I put into it. And please note now and any military discussion I use in the future: This is my dumb down version for everyone, including myself to understand, plus what all I actually would listen and understand of everything Nick says (There are about 53025999 acronyms in the military).... Post and Carry on with the rest of your day!
Friday, September 9, 2011
Blog Augmentation
Thanks to my awesome husband, my blog has had a complete make-over! Everything from the font, color, background, layout, to the pictures have been rejuvenated. I went with a more patriotic theme to go with my navy life theme. The pictures almost all have to do with the navy, either by uniform's or where we are at.... with just a few exceptions of my favorite pictures. I hope you like it! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day!
Thursday, September 8, 2011
The Evans' Family Snap Snap

Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Two Years, Too Late
I realized that once upon a time I made a vow to start blogging so I could always remember what was going on in my life. As we can all see that didn't work out too well for me, but I am vowing to change. I do not know if I will be able to keep up daily but I would at the very least like a weekly round-up of the events that took place. I want to focus on the little things that the boys do and start making note at these cute things that I soon will forget when I have two teenage sons!!! Expect an update blog to soon follow! Post and Carry on with the rest of your day! (Do you get it??? Meaning to follow)
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